It's hard not to take things personal. When people leave the church, and/or when people don't want to be a part. When we planted in Nashville, we saw many come and go. When people left, the reasons for leaving always burdened our hearts. We would ask ourselves questions like, what could we have done differently to keep them. Was it us? We made it personal, even when it wasn't.
Now, as we plant again, and we are in the beginning stages of building a team. When someone doesn't want to join us, it can sting a little. Especially when we like the person, or feel on our end they should be a part. But, Jim said something wise to me as we were driving down the road a few days ago, wondering why someone would change their minds, after they seemed so excited about being a part of the team. He said, "God could be protecting us from something."
Pastor Bobby Davis (Life Church) told us, "You have to be willing to lose to lead." I thought that meant lose the people I already have. Little did I know, it means sometimes losing the people I already have made up being a part in my head. Most of the time God is wanting to take me even further beyond my plans and dreams, and he has the perfect people to come along side those dreams and visions. People I may not have chosen, or seen before. There will be people that are only for seasons. And, there will be people that aren't suppose to come along side us at all.
It is hard not to take it personal. I get it, I have been there...I will continue to experience when people leave. But, I have the opportunity to continue to love them well, and bless them as they go. Point them towards churches I believe in, and continue holding my head high knowing that I loved them extremely well in the season they were a part of my life. I have the choice not to make it personal, and see it as a great opportunity to lose to lead.
xo a girl who sleeps with the pastor