We walk around sometimes, and a lot of times in defeat in this role as a pastor’s wife. I remember when I became a pastor’s wife always thinking, “Is He sure He picked the right girl?” There are so many other women who are a lot more qualified to play the part than me. Take the worship leader’s wife. She is beautiful, loves people well, people love her, and she has a church lobby presence like no other.
So often, we focus on our weakness’. We see our flaws, mistakes, and past failures. How could we possibly be naive enough to think the Savior of the world chose us, to be the pastor’s wife of His church? Surely, He missed something. Oh I know, he forgot to see a couple things on my application I put in for pastor’s wife. But did He? Is he forgetting who I am?
When I became a pastor’s wife I was super young. Fresh out of my parent’s house, newly married, just moved to a new city, and started a church. I had a lot of expectations from others, and expectations I placed on myself about who I needed to be, to eventually deserve the title. Unfortunately, the enemy had me focused more on my weakness’ than he did me focused on my strengths, and potential.
Instead of my expectations being goals, and something I could become. They became my greatest weakness. I focused on what I wasn’t, and where I lacked, rather than what I was and could be.
..no one will ever listen to you.
..you will never be loved.
…you will never be able to speak.
..you will never be an outgoing people person.
..you aren't good enough.
…you will never lead a women’s ministry.
…you will never have finances.
…you will never be good enough.
…you will never see the dreams you have dreamed.
…you will never reach many people.
Let me tell you something pastor’s wife. The enemy knows who you are, before you do. Hear me, the enemy knows your potential in Jesus, before you do. He sees your greatness. He sees your crown, and glory and he shudders. He fears you. He sees, that you more than deserve the title pastor’s wife. He sees your strengths. This is why he likes to spend his time whispering lies and shifting your perspective to focus on what you lack, rather than what you’ve gained. He likes for you to “believe” in your weakness’ as weakness, rather than believe in them as strengths.
Pastor’s wife, if you want to know an area you are great in, take a good look at your greatest weakness. I will guarantee you, what you believe now is a weakness, can and will be your greatest strength and potential if you shift your perspective and lean on Jesus. Jesus says you are more than qualified. Jesus isn't limited by your weakness, or who you think you are. He says, "Give me your weakness, so I can give you my strength."
Hold your head high sister, and walk confidently in this season in the role God has given you.
xo a girl who sleeps with the pastor