Do you remember what it was like when you first started dating your husband (pastor?) You both were passionately in love, going out of your way to lay down your lives for each other. We would drive hours to be with each other, talk on the phone forever, spend countless hours together. Then marriage came, and the years settled in. The passion, and love that was once there is now hidden by time and past seasons. Can you relate to this as a pastor's wife?
Do you remember when the call came to plant a church/lead a church? The excitement, and fire that consumed you and your husband. It was all dreamy, like your first date as a couple. It was a new chapter, a new beginning on an uncharted journey God was calling you to. Sorta like dating your spouse, this church was passionately loved by you.
Here are top the 10 we did in the beginning we should still do now.
we use to pray about the Church plant/Church everyday?
we use to feel like we were on mission?
church was exciting?
we relied all on Jesus, and not our own doing?
telling and inviting everyone to come, came so natural?
we use to spend countless hours dreaming?
the enemy's arrows looked so small to us?
we gave our everything?
we enjoyed our team, and the people God called us to love?
time and seasons hadn't weighed us down, and we were passionate about the church?
Somehow, like marriage, time changed things. Like wrinkles on our faces, the circumstances of life came unapologetically. Our perspective shifted from seeing church as new and exciting, to always been and tiresome. But, God didn't intend for it to. Life is constantly moving and changing. New things are being invented, then we move on to something new and better. At least, that is what society tells us anyways. So in our nature, after the newness wears off we toss it in the closet, and it gets forgotten about. However, with our spouses, and the church we can't just toss them in the closet.
Time changes things, yes. But, somewhere along the line we stopped living out of passion. God didn't give us our spouse to only be passionate about for a season. He also didn't call us to love on His bride, to only be passionate about for a season. He called you because He knows you are relentless, steadfast, faithful, committed, strong, determined, and unwavering. However, the enemy over time has slowly buried your passion.
Passion doesn't just click back on and off. So how do we get it back? One of my favorite quotes my husband says is, "Sometimes the best way to get your passion back, is to go back to the last place you felt it." Remember that place you were when the call on you and your husband became so real? Go back. Remember that prayer time with your core group that was a defining moment for you? Go back! I am not talking mentally, but physically. Passion doesn't click back on, it is going to take some work. Start doing what you did in the beginning again, and watch your passion, and excitement light back up in your life.
Friends, its' ok to act small, no matter what size your church. Get a core team/ your staff together and dream again. Dream and pray together about the church, and the future of the church. Get on your faces and pray together again pastor and pastor's wife. Don't let time hinder you, but allow it to grow you and flourish your passion.
xo a girl who sleeps with the pastor