"Did you listen to a word you just preached?" I have totally said those words. Even as the pastor's wife, I can forget the pastor isn't perfect. Or, maybe it isn't that I forget he isn't perfect. I expect, like others, for the pastor to be a little more perfect. This not only hurts me to place unrealistic expectations on him that he can't meet. But it hurts him more.
As a pastor's wife, I know best the pastor isn't perfect. Hello, I live with him. Yet somehow, the enemy time and again can sneak in the expectation of perfection in my life and those around me. When I use my husband's call against him for not being perfect this is breathing a lie in his ear. This is making him feel unworthy, not good enough, and like a failure. "You aren't living how you just preached." I can go on an on, about the gift of encouragement and grace I so lack sometimes.
But, isn't it just like the enemy to sneak expectations in, and then we vocalize how our husband (pastor) isn't living up to them. I know, I sound like I am really failing at the pastor's wife thing. Maybe this isn't you, maybe you have never had those thoughts. Well, you go sister. Let this be a lovely encouragement and reminder to never do it. But for those of us, that have let our tongues set a little flame, let me bring the extinguisher.
You and I both know it. God didn't call the perfect, have it all together religious people. He called the far from perfect, lovers of Him that need His grace daily. I know sometimes we can listen to our husbands preach a great sermon, then think they have it all figured out. However, most the time they are preaching to themselves and us at the same time. Let's become more aware of when the enemy is trying to shoot an arrow of discouragement to us and our pastor husband, and shield ourselves from the expectations of perfection.
xo a girl who sleeps with the pastor