I think over the years of being a pastor's wife, one of my greatest longings was to know and feel I was doing great. I looked for that validation from those around me. There is just something encouraging about hearing you are doing great, and that you are appreciated in this role. Am I right? It somehow gives us a little shot of energy to keep going. However, if there was one thing I learned over that time of longing, to my surprise not much validation would come. Not because I wasn't appreciated, valued, or loved as a pastor's wife. But because people just don't get it.
I think most people look at the pastor (husband) only and hold him in high regard for all he does for the church. Our husbands are truly amazing aren't they? The call they have on their life. I always love watching and getting a front row seat to watch my husband lay down His life to love on and prepare the Bride, the church. He inspires me daily. However, like the saying goes, "Behind every great man, there is a greater woman." But really, coming from being a pastor's wife, and knowing all that goes into this call, you pastors' wives are truly some of the greatest most amazing women ever.
Though you may never get validated from the people around you, don't let that hinder you from knowing you are doing great and are valued. People don't understand, as you know. It is hard to understand unless you are married to a pastor. We have to try to stop looking for approval and validation from those around us. It isn't fair to them, to hold the weight of making us feel great, and valued. Especially, when they don't know all that goes into this call. It is also unfair to ourselves to look for approval anywhere else than from the source Himself. Christ called us, He should be the only one we are aiming to be great for and feel valued from.
Pastor's wife, take it from me. You are doing great. You are more than perfect for this call as pastor's wife, with your husband, at your particular church. God chose you, He didn't make a mistake. Trust Him. He adores you, and is proud of you, mistakes and all. You are valued and appreciated more than you will ever know. Stay steadfast, and faithful to your call, and stay devoted as He continues to shape you into who He desires you to be as pastor's wife. You got this! You are the perfect choice. He has equipped you right where you are.
xo a girl who sleeps with the pastor