1. Never equip, or raise people up to lead or volunteer in areas. Just run the show alone.
2. Never build community. Hide yo wife, and yo kids in your house.
3. Instead of working on uniting people, breed disunity. This will really be a deal breaker.
4. Burn people out.
5. Preach the same 2 or 3 sermons on rotation. People love never being fed, or growing spiritually through your sermons.
6. Never tithe.
7. Ignore people when they need you.
8. Don't try. Just be mediocre.
Ok, ok I can't go on anymore. These are all ridiculous! Who would try to fail a church plant anyways?
As crazy as each of these sound. I think at one point or another, one or many numbers may stand true for us as church planters. Though we may not try to intentionally fail at church planting. There have been times I rather hide than go to a church event. There have been times people have felt burn out by the responsibilities my husband and I gave them. There certainly was a Sunday or two we didn't tithe. And, I definitely ignored a coffee date or two when asked.
My point is, the ways we feel we have failed in the past through this church planting journey, may not have actually been failure. Sure, we could have done things better. There are countless ways I can name I failed as a pastor's wife, and could have done things better. Just go back and read a few more blogs. We mess up. A lot of it was ugly, and I wouldn't want another rerun. But I am thankful for the mess-ups. It is because of the mistakes, and mess-ups that I grew. Because of those crazy ridiculous absurd choices I made, I can do things so much better now, today, or tomorrow.
The moment our mistakes become failure, is the point when we stop learning from our mistakes.
The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases;
his mercies never come to an end;
they are new every morning;
great is your faithfulness.
Keep your chin up. Pastor's wife we can all name the ways we didn't do things right. There will be ways we mess up in the future. But hold tight to His new mercies. Learn. Grow from it. And, don't let the past hinder you from what God has for you now. He can turn the ashes to beauty.
xo a girl who sleeps with the pastor