I recently saw a picture of a boss and a leader. On one side, the boss was sitting in a chair pointing his finger demanding what needed to be done, and on the other side the leader was actually hands on helping lead the people working in the direction they needed to go. I think so often as leaders in pastoring churches, we get the pastoring down but not the leading. Leading doesn't have to be the ugly picture we often paint as boss.
Leading is so much more than being dictator. A leader is a shepherd. Someone who tends and walks with his sheep. I can remember when we first started the church plant in 2009, I was very young and didn't know much or anything about leading a church. Other than the advice from other pastors we had gotten, and the many pastors' wives books I read. Leading a church was scary to me, I was too young, would anyone listen or follow me?
Many girls in that season wanted to meet and talk to me one on one, and I found any excuse not to. I didn't want the title of chief. I was already trying to figure out what this whole pastor's wife thing looked like, and flourishing into who God was shaping me to be. The enemy was whispering too many believable lies in that season. That I was too young, an introverted, and because of that I couldn't lead.
Had I been mentored, and sought out what leader meant I would have realized leader doesn't mean to Lord over people. Leaders are be-frienders. Jesus was a beautiful example of a leader. He walked with His disciples. He was their friend. He loved on them, encouraged them, and spoke truth to them. What He didn't do, was Lord over, and become some powerhouse authoritative prideful bossman.
Pastors' wives, you are leaders whether you want the title or not. Women often look to you to love and encourage them no matter what your age, or your personality. God has positioned you in this position, and they know and look to you as their pastor's wife. Start believing in who you are, and the call God has placed on your life. Seek out and become the humble, confident leader God always intended you to be.
xo a girl who sleeps with the pastor