Pastors' and pastors' wives throughout the years of leading a church acquire many frustrations. Loneliness, criticism, betrayal, rejection, these are just a few to mention. While pastoring a church is one of the greatest jobs in the world, it can be a battle. We are in a raging war spiritually that is trying to knock us out of the fight. And frankly, a lot of the time it seems the wrong side is winning.
Our husbands are losing the awe and wonder they once had. Pastors' wives are lonely and have no one to talk to. The marriage of the pastor and pastor's wife is being strained by the weight of carrying a ministry. People are leaving the church. Volunteers aren't buying into the vision. Finances are gone. People say hurtful things. Pastoring a church has turned into a burden more than a joy. Our identities are being stripped from us because we forgot who we are in Christ.
Ministry isn't for the faint of heart. When we go into leading a church, adventure and child like faith is at its highest. We are thriving and relying on Jesus. The baby stages of leading a church is fun, because most of the time the bullets haven't hit yet. If they have, you don't see them as the huge cannon balls they are, but little pellets in the road. Your perspective is everything it needs to be, for Christ to build the church. However, a year goes by and the pellets start turning into bullets. Then, add a couple more years and what use to be pellets have turned into massive cannon balls and grenades in the ministry. Your perspective over time has changed, and the war seems as though you're losing.
Jesus' journey seemed as though He was losing. He was betrayed with a kiss, and the enemy thought he was winning. Peter denied him. Pilate washed his hands of him. Jesus was beat. His hands were nailed to a cross, the enemy thought he was winning. His feet were nailed. His side was pierced. He breathed His last breath. He died, and the enemy thought he was winning. However, through what looked like Jesus' losing, God was using for His glory to defeat death and save the world.
The war is big. What looks like losing to you, isn't. You are more than a conqueror, and Christ has already won. Through the pains and struggles of ministry don't ever lose your perspective. The enemy knows how to make small things look huge to you. Jesus said we can tell a mountain to move, and it will move. With Christ nothing is too big, too strong, too much for us to win. What looks like losing, actually may be winning.
Shake things off pastor's wife, have a shift of perspective, and lean into Him again.
xo a girl who sleeps with the pastor