When leading a church there are a lot of people we count on. Unfortunately, as leaders we sometimes put unrealistic expectations on people. We forget they don't have life "put together" yet. We leave them little wiggle room to walk through different seasons, and little to no time to grow. We age them to our expectations, and when they fall short because they aren't perfect, we get disappointed.
Pastors' wives, pastors' God only created one you. However, He has placed people in your life in this season to help you with preparing the Bride. People aren't always reliable, countable, devoted, excited, and driven. But that's ok, because God is constantly growing, reshaping, chipping away, and adding to people. We need to encourage people, and love on them exactly where they are. They might not do things exactly the way we want them to. But sometimes as leaders we have to be willing to take a chance on people and trust God.
There will be seasons in the church where God brings people in, and there will be seasons where He moves people out. Life nowadays is so transitional. This new generation lives in constant motion. The people we count on now, may just be a time of transition for them. I recently heard from a pastor's wife friend of mine, "We have to be willing to lose, to lead." There will be people who leave the church you least expect to lose. However, you need to be willing to lose some of the ones you have, to lead the ones you'll get.
Drop the expectations you have on staff, leaders, volunteers, and the congregation. Love them exactly where they are. Leave them room to grow and learn, and encourage them along the way. And when they go, bless them, and point them to another church who is doing great things. Keep up with them. Just because they aren't a part of your body, doesn't mean they aren't still a part of the church. Every church is one church, just separate parts of the body. Love the people, it is one of your greatest calls.
xo a girl who sleeps with the pastor