I am speaking to all my introverted pastors' wives out there. You are a special, unique, awesome bunch of women. Did she just say unique? I hate when introverts are referred to as unique. Hear me out before you write me off. I get it, you aren't bubbly or crazy outgoing. You thrive in deep meaningful conversations, and Sunday mornings can be a bit frightful. Let me give you a few insights about your introverted heart, God designed to be one of the perfect pastor's wives.
First, you were never suppose to be an extrovert. Ok, ok, when I say extrovert I am talking about all the people who are overly excited and feed off of other people. They love huge crowds, and can work their way through a group of people like a cake walk. That's not you. Don't worry about them. Just be glad they are awesome, and can take the attention and eyes off of you and do the hard work for you. Don't feel like you have to keep up with them, or they run all over you. This isn't a competition. Let them be them, and you be you.
Second, flourish where you are at. Are you awkwardly introverted? Conversations can just get weird, and go no where cause you don't really know how to carry "surface level" ones, because you love deep ones. No problem. Flourish in who you are in this season. Be willing to get stretched and grown in new ways. God sometimes needs you to get uncomfortable so He can move in big ways. Be willing to get uncomfortable, and then just maybe God will surprise you with some new characteristics. You may one Sunday, get bubbly, work your way around the congregation, and say hello to everyone at church. You will leave saying, "who was that girl I was back there?"
Last, embrace who God created you to be. Own it, and be you. This doesn't mean walk around stubborn, unwilling to say hi to people. I mean walk around in humility and confidence knowing God has equipped you where He has called you. You were and are the perfect introverted pastor's wife to get the job done. God didn't mess up pairing you with the pastor. You will never be another pastor's wife so stop comparing. You be you, and embrace it. Don't worry about what others think of you. But let your heart beat Jesus' beat, and walk to the rhythm He desires you to.
Extroverts, cut the introverts some slack. They aren't weird, or unfriendly. They were just wired differently than you. Be glad you get the "center of attention" title and you aren't fighting for it. Let the introverts thrive in deep relationships while you make everyone feel welcome. Be a team, and love each other well. Allow each other to grow in every season, uniquely in the way God created each of you to be.
xo a girl who sleeps with the pastor