Being a pastor's wife is a beautiful relational role. Five years ago when we first started the church plant, I was longing for a mentor. I was in the baby-dreaming stages, where every church planter is at its high of everything is great, God is going to do amazing things stage. I knew I didn't yet need one, because the tough seasons hadn't hit us yet, but I was longing to find her (mentor) for when I did need her. And when I say longing, I mean I desire one but I am not doing everything I can to find her.
Unfortunately, because I didn't seek out a mentor a year earlier, when the tough seasons started, I wasn't better prepared for it. Right when I needed a mentor most, I didn't have her. Boy, did I ever feel so alone in my role as pastor's wife. The enemy separated the staff wives that year. And in the midst of that, expectations laid heavy on me. My spirit was being crushed rather than poured into and spoken truth over. The mentor I needed, was m.i.a. and the enemy had secluded me to nothing.
As pastors' wives, our roles are very relational, however very lonely too. A majority of the time we are speaking into women and others, and loving on them. But in return seeking, and finding no mentor or friend to pour love and truths into us. We all go through seasons where we think we are fine, and don't need anyone. Unfortunately, this is our flesh and the enemy trying to seclude us for when we do need someone in our lives. When tough, hard seasons come seclusion is the devil's favorite place for you. Because there is healing and power where two or more are gathered.
God intended for us to need and rely solely on Him. He has placed different people in different seasons of our lives to be His heart, hands, and feet to us. But so often, we don't look for the mentor/friend until we need them most. And then we are so distraught, and alone feeling, we are blinded by what is true and meant to be good for us. God never intended for us to rely on Him only in tough seasons, but in great seasons too.
We all need a woman that is a friend and mentor to us. Someone who is "for us" in the good seasons and the tough seasons. Someone who is going to speak truth and light into us. We need it more that we know. Christ designed it that way. When people get out of seclusion, and join together in His name they become unstoppable. You are an unstoppable force for the Glory of Jesus, and the enemy is well aware whether you know or not. He uses loneliness for you to forget who you are, and to hinder your role.
Remember who you are, that you need Jesus, a woman who is going to pour into you, so you can continue being the unstoppable pastor's wife in the church He has you at.
xo a girl who sleeps with the pastor