A role of a pastor's wife can look enticing to the standard eye. As the role is one of the greatest jobs in the world. However, although it is the greatest, pastoring is one of the hardest jobs as well. While it isn't "the" hardest, because our husband's role as pastor probably defines hardest and greatest. Being a pastor's wife definitely comes with its beauty and tribulation.
There are many facets to who we are, and a whole lot of flourishing and growth in every season. While we all relate somehow through our roles by circumstances, seasons, joy and struggles. We are all unique in the way Christ has shaped, and wired us. Fortunately, God has allowed many of the seasons we walk through to be similar. Which allows a lot of encouragement and hope from each other along the way.
Young girl, you will never be me, or another pastor's wife you esteem. Nor do you ever want to be. You have no idea the pain, and hardships we pastors' wives have walked through to get where we are today. Growth can be painful. There are traits, flesh, characteristics, and sin that has to be scaled back and stripped off. The joy, and favor you see today has come at a cost of dying to oneself daily. There are seasons I have had to go through, without want, to be who I am now.
There are seasons we have to give more than we have. Continuously pour out our hearts for people. For people who aren't always appreciative. There are times the church needs my husband's attention more, and takes it without regret. Sometimes finances are a struggle and can burden us. Other times I forget my identity, and don't think I am equipped or able to fulfill the tasks God has given me. I always need a friend, and don't always have one. Being a pastor's wife can be very lonely. And, more times than I can count, the enemy comes to steal, kill, and destroy my marriage, my house, and the ministry in which God has given me.
Young girl, being a pastor's wife is one of the greatest jobs in the world. The joy you see on me, and fun you get a glimpse of, is real and true. Pastors' wives are the strongest women. We get to point people to Jesus, and watch death come to life. We get to be traffic directors, part of a story. Constantly walking with people the way they should go, and when they can finally see the direction, we point them the way and encourage them to take and direct as many people as they can. We get to love on people like Jesus does. We get to cheerlead our husbands on, and encourage them everyday. We get to give people the grace, hope, forgiveness, and love Jesus gives us. Oh and I can't forget, we get to sleep with the pastor. Mine snores, steals the cover, and wakes me up too early.
Young girl, if I had one job to recommend you. Become you. If God has a chapter written for you to be a pastor's wife, be you! A pastor's wife isn't your identity. Who you are in Christ is. There will be many seasons that come and go. Some joyful, and some weary. But if you allow them, they will shape you and grow you into the pastor's wife you were always meant to be. God can use all things for His good. Never strive for perfection. But strive to hide your flesh behind the cross daily, and embrace each day God has given you. His mercies are new every day. Be thankful, and find joy in every second. When the time comes, you are the perfect choice to shepherd and lead the church along side your husband. And He will equip you where He has called you.
xo a girl who sleeps with the pastor