A Sunday where we wake up together. I eat breakfast with my husband, and he helps get the children ready for church. We aren't in a hurry, or rushed to get out of the door. We eat a lovely breakfast. We show up to church, and check the kids in. My husband grabs two coffees for us, and we make our way to our seats. We then sit down, and chat for a moment before service starts. Worship begins and we worship together, and then listen to the sermon. When it is over, we grab the kids, go out for lunch, then go home and take an amazing Sunday nap. Doesn't that sound like a dream?
I know I have had plenty of Sundays where I wish this was the layout for the morning. However, being married to the pastor this isn't realistic. Most Sundays he is gone before sunrise, to pray and prepare himself for the morning. He is a part of set up. He has to have a Sunday morning meeting and prayer with the volunteers. Most of the time, the kids and I don't see him until we show up to church. Even then, it is a short hello. I take care of getting the children where they need to be, and go sit alone on the front row. When church is over, people are often fighting for his attention. And afterwards, tear down begins, and he is usually the last one out of the building. This is the usual layout for Sunday morning.
Pastors' wives, I know Sundays are different of you. You may have your Sundays you wish looked different. Some Sundays are hard. But remember, just as it is your husband's big day to lay out the morning, and sermon. It is your big day that God has equipped you to support your husband, lead the children, and love the church. Your role on Sunday morning often goes under appreciated, but it is huge. Just think about all you have to do. If it wasn't huge, then it wouldn't be hard. You have a huge responsibility on Sundays. You so often forget your value and your part, because all of it can seem so mundane to what your husband does from stage. But God is working in and through you to display Jesus and the serving leader He was.
God knew your husband needed you. He not only needs you through the week, but he needs you on Sunday. He needs your support and love. God also knew the church He needed you at. He needed your serving, loving, unwavering, steadfast spirit to lead on Sunday mornings through your husband, your children, and how you handle it all. You have a beauty and grace that is far beyond valued, appreciated or not. Your role is huge. It will be hard. But don't allow the devil to breed comparison. Comparison is the thief of joy.
xo a girl who sleeps with the pastor