Being the helper God desires you to be to your husband can get tricky. We find it easy to be the helper God calls us to be in Genesis. We own that title, and often it gets lost in our flesh. Genesis 2 says, Then the LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him." God made us to be helpers to our husband. But His desire for us was never to work in the flesh as a helper.
As pastors' wives, I know for myself it is easy to see a problem and want to solve it. If God created me to be my husband's helper, I will give little nudges here and there. Some reminders, a lot of good input, and help out as much as needed with or without help wanted. I believe scripture likes to refer to some of this as nagging. I know, that word is ugly and the last thing we want to be referred to as is a nagging wife. The scripture paints pretty ugly pictures of this woman. And, I think if we are all a bit more honest with ourselves, if we are living in the flesh in a moment a nag here or there will slip out.
When Jesus came, the scripture started speaking of a new helper. John 14:15-17 “If you love me, you will keep my commandments. And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Helper, to be with you forever, even the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it neither sees him nor knows him. You know him, for he dwells with you and will be in you. John 14:26 But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, he will teach you all things and bring to your remembrance all that I have said to you.
Ladies, our husbands need the helpers God always intended us to be. If we are walking in the spirit, with our helper, than the helper God spoke of us to be in Genesis will be fulfilled. Stop owning a title that isn't yours, and taking advantage of the role God has given you. Jesus sent His Holy Spirit to dwell in us. If I am living by the "Jessica Spirit" then I am no longer a helper to my husband by God's design but by Jessica's alone.
I pray that we walk in our callings as Jesus intended us to. We are to be our husband's helper before we are to be a pastor's wife. We need the Holy Spirit, our helper to define, shape, grow, and work in our lives. We need His help to ultimately be our husband's helper. We need to start praying for our husbands' more than trying to be fixers, and appointment reminders. We need to start lifting our husbands' up in prayer and asking the spirit of God to work in their heart, mind, and soul. We need to bite our tongues more, pray more, seek Jesus more, and let the spirit work in us and through us to speak truth over our husbands'.
xo a girl who sleeps with the pastor