For the first few years of church planting it is usually easy for church planters to know their entire congregation. I mean after all, it probably hasn't grown to a huge capacity of not knowing everyone yet. When we started however, Jim and I didn't know everyone.
Our worship leader and his wife had the personalities, of friends with everyone. Where as Jim and I had the driven, church minded, get things done and people plugged in personalities. If we could go back, we would have put people before all those other things. No it isn't naturally our personalities to be friends with everyone and be the life of every party. JIm is a dreamer, and vision caster to people, and I leaned more on the side of quiet introvert who talks to few but a great listener to many.
On year four, and into year five the Lord has really rewired our brains to see the value of people differently. To not only plug them in places like before, but really to build friendships with people. Jim has become more of a friend as he casts vision, and I have grown in the area of being introverted, to now an extrovert with a seatbelt and have started building friendships I would have never built year one.
From today on, I want to speak to you pastors' wives who may be in the same place my husband and I were in ministry. Maybe you already have the go-getter, friends with everyone type on staff at your church. That is great and all, but as the leader leading the way as pastor and pastor's wife of the church, you need to lead the forefront for your staff members and people. Jesus was a friend to many, but close with few. I am not saying to tell your secrets, and life to everyone. But be a friend to many, and build friendships among your body. They are valuable to Jesus, and many are only in your life for a season. Treasure them.
xo a girl who sleeps with the pastor