I can remember the first couple years of church planting seeing every relational encounter with people from our church as "doing church." If people came over for dinner, "church work." If we were invited to a birthday party, "church work." I often struggled with the balance between our personal lives, and church. I was an extreme introvert then, and hanging out with people felt like an overload of "church work."
I viewed people, and relationships as work and because of that, I often felt neglected in my personal needs of family time, and lacked in the area of friends. What I didn't realize is, people didn't want to be work. They wanted to be friends. And I didn't need it to be work, it was hindering me.
John 15:13 Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.
As pastors' wives it is easy to view everything that involves people from church as "church work." However, I don't think Jesus ever intended for us to view it this way. He never viewed church as work. The bible says, the church is the bride of Christ. Jesus loves his church, as a groom loves his wife. Yes, in any marriage you have to work at it, but you don't view your wife as work. You view her as your best friend, your love, someone you adore and lay your life down for. Church was never intended to be viewed as work. We may have to work at it, but our view of it should be with love and friendship because it is Christ's bride.
It is crazy how life changing and freeing it can be to us when we realize church is no longer "church work." This year I have probably had the most people I have ever had run through my house on a weekly basis than I have the past five years combined. People no longer just come over for small groups and church get togethers. But people come over just to hang out, say hello, ask us questions, eat dinner, watch a movie, whatever. Stuff no longer has to be planned, people just come and go. People are no longer work, they are friends.
Jesus was incredible at this. He never lead with a work mindset. He knew the value of loving people, and serving people before he lead them. He was friends with his disciples, and walked life along side of them. And through loving and serving people, this made him the leader he was.
xo a girl who sleeps with the pastor