Such great questions, and tough ones as well. I am so excited for all the new pastors' wives. Being a pastor and pastor's wife is the greatest job in the world, and the hardest as well. Enjoy this season you are in, and the season your about to step into. The Lord is constantly walking us in and out of seasons to grow us and shape us in new ways. It is our choice to walk with Him, and choose to open up our lives and allow for him to refine and grow us.
My best advice for new pastors' wives would be would be to start focusing your life now for the future. In my house we don't have television, or watch certain movies, because this ultimately isn't going to get us to our end goals. Instead we fill our heads with wisdom from ministry, books, the bible, and pouring into people. And for other people it might be something entirely different. Maybe you give up social media so you can fill yourself with more and more wisdom and more steps to fulfill your destiny in ministry. Every day, every minute has value. If you choose today to not fill your cup with Jesus, that puts you one day behind to getting you where you're going. We have got to start taking step forwards. Don't take two steps forward and three steps back. You will never get to where you're going.
Next, to be a pastor's wife, you have to be a wife first. One of the many things in our lives we have to work on, is keeping things in order. For example, Jesus the center of everything, my husband next, my kids after, and pastor's wife last. Whatever season you are in, make sure you always have Jesus center of everything and the rest falling in place correctly. If things get out of sorts, they start falling apart and not working properly. If you give too much to one and not the other, then one gets neglected. Keep in check.
Love Jesus with everything you got! He is everything, and is our end goal. Seek him and know him. When people see us we don't want them to see Jessica or another pastor's wife, we want them to see Jesus. Through Jesus will you become the woman Jesus desires you to be. The best thing you can be to your husband, and the people you come in contact with, is being confident in who Christ has created you to be. This will make or break your ministry. People need you to be true to who you are, and so do you. You will find the most satisfaction and gratitude, in knowing Jesus and yourself.
Things I would of never guessed I would of faced as a pastor's wife? Financial stress, the burdens and weight of people, expectations I put on myself as well as others put on me, how the devil is constantly knocking at our door to get in our marriage and destroy the ministry God has called us to, how life can get out of order so easily, how demanding it is. Other things, how fun it is, how rewarding it is, how amazing it is, the miracles I have seen, having the honor and privilege of being called to shepherd people. It is amazing friends, it is work, it is hard, but it is worth it all to be kingdom builders and have Jesus call our names to this position.
Where God has called you he has equipped you. Bloom your life now. Seek Jesus every minute of every day and hide your flesh behind the cross. Figure out your gifts and exercise them regularly. Don't try to be gifted where you're not. Use the gift God has given you and run with it.
Remember every pastor's wife is different. God called you to this position to be YOU!
xo a girl who sleeps with the pastor