Marriage is hard. Being married to a Pastor, even harder. I have no clue if that statement is true, but in my marriage it is. We have our great days, and we have our not so great days. I am looking forward to the day, when marriage is what God intended it to be. Love isn't a battlefield Pat Benatar.
On our not so great days, our view becomes skewed. Why did we get married? I failed again, and said words I wish I never had. I am going to build my wall higher and higher so I can't get hurt. Apologies and forgiveness seem unreachable. Lies are bound up in past hurt the devil uses as tools to rip our marriage to shreds every chance he's got.
Nehemiah 4:11-23 Meanwhile, our enemies were saying, “Before they know what’s happening, we will swoop down on them and kill them and end their work.”
The Jews who lived near the enemy came and told us again and again, “They will come from all directions and attack us!" So I placed armed guards behind the lowest parts of the wall in the exposed areas. I stationed the people to stand guard by families, armed with swords, spears, and bows.
Then as I looked over the situation, I called together the nobles and the rest of the people and said to them, “Don’t be afraid of the enemy! Remember the Lord, who is great and glorious, and fight for your brothers, your sons, your daughters, your wives, and your homes!”
When our enemies heard that we knew of their plans and that God had frustrated them, we all returned to our work on the wall. But from then on, only half my men worked while the other half stood guard with spears, shields, bows, and coats of mail. The leaders stationed themselves behind the people of Judah who were building the wall. The laborers carried on their work with one hand supporting their load and one hand holding a weapon.All the builders had a sword belted to their side. The trumpeter stayed with me to sound the alarm.
Then I explained to the nobles and officials and all the people, “The work is very spread out, and we are widely separated from each other along the wall. When you hear the blast of the trumpet, rush to wherever it is sounding. Then our God will fight for us!”
We worked early and late, from sunrise to sunset. And half the men were always on guard. I also told everyone living outside the walls to stay in Jerusalem. That way they and their servants could help with guard duty at night and work during the day. During this time, none of us—not I, nor my relatives, nor my servants, nor the guards who were with me—ever took off our clothes. We carried our weapons with us at all times, even when we went for water.
How many of you can relate to this in marriage? Getting attacked from all direction. Even walking to get water from the fridge an argument will cut loose. The bible says our enemy is out prowling like a lion roaring, ready and looking for someone to devour. Like the story in Nehemiah, we must always be ready, carrying our weapons to fight the devil out of our marriages.
Luke 22:36 “But now,” he said, “take your money and a traveler’s bag. And if you don’t have a sword, sell your cloak and buy one! "
We must stop pointing fingers in our marriage and placing blame upon each other. The enemy is causing strife in our marriages and we are letting him in with open arms. Hold your swords ladies, and recognize the enemy for who he is. Our husbands' are not our enemy. Do not let the devil creep in your life and destroy your marriage and the work God has called the two of you together to accomplish.
xo a girl who sleeps with the pastor