One mistake I did in the past as a pastor's wife, you should never do. I repeat, NEVER DO. When the enemy gets in your house, and up in your marriage, do not use church against your husband.
First of all, church is the bride of Christ, it has nothing to do with your argument with your spouse. Your husband, and your family dedicate a lot of time to preparing the bride for the groom. Sometimes it can feel like your husband spends more time furthering the church than he does with your family. Maybe he is, maybe he isn't. But you should never use Christ's church to get a jab at your husband. Guilty as charged, these words and actions have been said and done by me countless times. "I am not going to church Sunday, you can go alone."
Second, as a christian and pastor's wife our love for the church should not be conditional. So not wanting to go, or not going, should never be an option. Our praise for Jesus should be given to Him on our good days, and our bad days. Jesus is still worthy of our praise regardless if we had an argument two minutes before worship, or if we don't feel like it.
Last, not going to church, or praising Jesus on a Sunday isn't hurting your husband like you think it is. It may hurt his heart in a way you don't know, but it is ultimately affecting your ministry. You and your spouse are one, and this jab is one that will hinder what God has for you, your husband, and the church He has placed you at.
There are numerous NO-NO's we should never make as pastors' wives, that I have probably made. But God and His grace has taught me and given me more wisdom and knowledge because of my mistakes. Jabs against the church targeted towards your husband was never in the job description as a pastor's wife, or wife. Love your husband, love the church, and praise Him every second of everyday.
Pastor's wife, if you have made mistakes like me. Rest in Jesus' grace, ask forgiveness, learn from it, grow from it, and strive to be ALL that God created you to be.
xo a girl who sleeps with the pastor