As a pastor's wife and wife in general we need and expect our husband to be the strong one. He is called to lead and be our household's pastor. However, with leading a church, the stress can sometimes overcome him and leave him in a vulnerable state.
I can remember several seasons in church planting where there were days of doubt. Should this still go on? Is what I am doing as a pastor actually making a difference? You wives know the thoughts that can sometimes rip through your households. Thoughts of doubt, confusion, hurt, exhaustion, stress, fear….
I know, no one wants to hear that their pastor is doubting. However, without doubt could the role actually be that great? You see doubt leaves room for Jesus. We realize we are not capable of doing what we are doing on our own. That this needs an act of God, cause without Him building the house, our work labor is in vain.
Ladies, when your husband has days of doubt, don't worry. A doubting person doesn't need someone to doubt with him. What he needs is someone strong. Someone who will encourage him everything is going to be ok. He needs truth spoken over him, and he needs you at the feet of Jesus praying for him.
I know it can be hard, when you yourself have your days of doubt too. We need our strong other half holding us together. But sometimes, whether we or they want to admit it or not. Sometimes our husbands need us to be the strong ones. They need us to hold them up, and be the helper we were created to be.
If your husband is doubting, encourage him to rest. He needs days to relax from full-time ministry. Encourage him to have a mentor/confidante he can talk to. Pray continuously for him. Surround your family with people who will encourage you, and speak truth into your family's life. Speak truth over him. Fight for him.
xo a girl who sleeps with the pastor