Well, it's Pastor Appreciation month! I looked up the definition of appreciation and what I found was this. To appreciate means to treasure, admire, to respect, to esteem or value someone or something. I find it funny the only people who know it is Pastor Appreciation month are the pastors, their wives, and the people they have told. Whoever invented pastor appreciation month anyways? They did terrible marketing, but I'll save that for another blog.
Pastor Appreciation month falls into what I think of Mother's Day, or Father's Day. The only time of year we recognize mothers and fathers for all they do for their children. They spend countless hours, and years pouring into, loving on, and taking care of their children. And they get one day. Twenty-four hours to be recognized and appreciated for all they do.
Pastors' and pastors' wives, what do you think of your month? This is what I read in an article from Lifeway, about what the congregation thinks. "Clueless! That's how many churches feel as they contemplate how to express gratitude to their cherished leaders for Pastor Appreciation Month each October." This makes me giggle a little. Of course they feel this way. Why wouldn't they? The article goes on to give ten ideas of what one could do to appreciate their pastor. Such as an office makeover, or a video presentation, and I won't go on to spoil the rest of the ten. If you wish to check that out, please do so. But, really….an office makeover?
I hate to say it, but we don't need an office makeover, or some video presentation, or even public recognition to puff us up a little. What my husband needs, not for Pastor Appreciation month, but as a pastor all year round is this. Cut back some of the negative comments. Chill out on the non sense opinions of what color you think the carpet should be, or how loud the music shouldn't be. It's pointless. Most of the year, people voice more negativity than they do positivity.
If you have something loving, joyful, and appreciative to say don't hold back and wait until October for Pastor Appreciation month. How meaningful is it, when you feel forced by a silly appreciation month. Pastor's don't need a month. Hebrews 13:17 says, Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over your souls, as those who will have to give an account. Let them do this with joy and not with groaning, for that would be of no advantage to you. 1 Timothy 5:17 Let the elders who rule well be considered worthy of double honor, especially those who labor in preaching and teaching.
Sounds to me like pastors' deserve love, honor, respect, appreciation every day, all year long. I never read anything about it being designated to October. Maybe if the church started valuing their leaders every day like they should, then when Pastor Appreciation Month comes, it wouldn't be so hard for them to think of a "special" way to honor them. If you need an idea of how to appreciate your pastor, you probably won't find what you are looking for unless you are searching scripture. I hate to put a damper on your office makeover, or speech. But this isn't what pastors' and their wives need. A cruise maybe, but flowers no.
Pastors' and their wives dedicate their lives to preparing the Bride (church) for the Groom (Christ.) This isn't a job to them, this is their calling and they love and adore what they do. When friends leave, people gossip, and the criticism gets heavy, it hurts them. We live in a broken world and although pastors have tough skin, sometimes they forget to shake it off, in the words of Taylor Swift. Pastors' and their wives need less negativity, and a whole lot more love and honor from the church. Criticism is good, and I think the negativity does keep us leaders humble. However, to know we are appreciated gives us a little more bounce in our step. To be valued, gives us the encouragement we need to keep on fighting the good fight. To know we are appreciated reminds us that what we are doing is good.
Here's to Pastor Appreciation month not ending in October, but continuing on every day of the year. Pastors' and pastors' wives you are an amazing crew. Keep up the good work, shake off all the hurt that has come and will come. Walk in confidence and humility knowing God called you to the greatest job in the world!
xo a girl who sleeps with the pastor